By Tina Smith, LPC, M.Ed.

As I reflect on the Christmas holidays, I realize I have become part of a group bound by the experience of deep sadness. Losing a friend, a family member, and my closest companion has made this season especially difficult to navigate. The traditions that once brought comfort now feel burdensome, and the pain of absence is ever-present.

The Struggle of Faith

Attending church during this time felt more like an obligation than a source of comfort. I wrestled with uncertainty, questioning whether the service could lift the loneliness, heartbreak, and despair weighing on my heart. Despite these doubts, I listened to the pastor with intentional hope—longing for words that might change the direction of my grief. In that moment, I made a conscious choice: I decided to surrender my beloved to God. This act was not about moving on from my loss, but about finding a way to move forward.

Moving Forward with Faith

Moving forward meant choosing to look ahead with the kind of faith that only my Savior can provide. I found strength in the words of scripture: the reassurance that I can do all things through Him who strengthens me, and the reminder that if God clothes the lilies of the field, He will surely care for me—His child. I am reminded that He loves me so much that He has given me a Comforter, allowing me to experience a peace that surpasses all understanding.

Gratitude Amidst Grief

Each morning, I am thankful to God for giving me the chance to witness the sunrise and sunset, for the greenery that sustains life, and for the presence of people around me—my friends, my family, and even kind strangers who share a wave and a smile. These are daily gifts that bring solace and remind me of the goodness still present in the world.

A Call to Action

If these reflections resonate with you, consider this your call to action. Take a deep, life-giving breath—the very breath our Creator has so graciously provided. Remember, our mission is not yet complete. Allow God’s purpose to guide you this season. Stand up for those we have lost, and for yourself, even when it feels impossible. Appreciate what and who is around you, and resist the urge to isolate. Reach out to a friend, take a walk, or listen to music. Seek joy in the simplest moments, for it is there that you are most likely to find reasons to smile—a child’s laughter, an uncle or aunt’s story, or memories shared with friends.

The Healing Power of Joy

Let yourself laugh—again and again. Laughter brings more than a fleeting sense of joy; it is healing for the soul. In embracing these small moments, you may find the strength to move forward, even in the midst of sorrow.

With compassion,
Tina Smith, LPC, M.Ed.
Co-Founder, Branches of Hope Wellness