By Tina Smith, M.Ed., LPC

Social self-care involves balancing quality alone time with time spent with others. It is essential not to neglect either aspect. In other words, connecting with others is just as important as taking quiet moments to decompress. This social spectrum often lies between the traits of introversion and extroversion. Our unique personality, shaped by genetics and upbringing, tends to lean toward one end of this spectrum, which can make it challenging to achieve balance in our social lives.

Social self-care begins with understanding and embracing your position on the introversion-extroversion spectrum. Both the social butterfly and the wallflower have their strengths, which are appreciated, as well as weaknesses that can present challenges. Depending on where you identify on this spectrum, you might recognize the benefits and difficulties of being either an introvert or an extrovert.

Introverts often crave alone time for the peace, quiet, and productivity it brings. For them, spending time with their thoughts and inner dialogue can feel like a spiritual experience. In contrast, extroverts thrive on interacting with others, sharing ideas, and spreading joy. They find excitement in engaging with people, lending a hand, and being available when needed.

The challenges associated with being an introvert or extrovert are influenced by both internal and external locus of control. Locus of control refers to the narratives that can create negative thought patterns about our social abilities, and these narratives develop over time through life experiences. Childhood experiences often play a significant role in shaping our personalities. For instance, an extrovert may become overly social or intrusive due to a fear of being alone, while an introvert may come across as unapproachable or reclusive, leading to feelings of isolation.

Balancing your social life requires an awareness of your current situation and the ability to identify unhealthy patterns. Once you determine where you stand on the social spectrum, finding a healthy balance becomes essential.

If you are an introvert, I encourage you to connect with your loved ones while being mindful not to let your social battery drain in the process. Remember, your strength develops during your alone time.

If you are an extrovert, focus on creating a self-care routine that is both pampering and relaxing—you deserve it!